I would like to share with you some understanding and advice on setting your Goals, and ways to engage your Mind effectively to make them easier to Achieve. I hope also to point out a couple of common pitfalls, which you can choose to avoid when setting your goals.
Those of you who attended my talks will recall how we discussed at length the difference between your “Conscious Mind” and your “Conditioned Mind” (or Unconscious/Subconscious mind). Using your Conscious Mind more intelligently to give clear instructions to the Conditioned Mind, makes it easier for your Conditioned Mind to create the results you desire. This applies more than ever whit Goal Setting:
- Your Conscious Mind is the Goal Setter – you reason, think and plan what we want in your life, and judge the results, using your Conscious intellect.
- However, your Conditioned Mind is the Goal Getter – it is in this domain that most of the work is done to achieve your goals.
Understanding this, you can see how important it is for you to set clear instructions, in a way which is easy for your Conditioned Mind to follow, making it easier for it to create what you want in your life.
Achieving goals is about CHANGE!
Keep doing what you are doing, and you will keep getting what you are getting. You don’t need any goal for that, as you are already doing it. However, if you want different results in your life, then you need to change what you do. This can be challenging.
Many of us like to stay within our comfort zone. It feels safer to keep walking the same old path, than to venture out onto a new one. But if you want to get to somewhere new, you need to alter your route. The only way to achieve any new goal is to Change and shift/expand your Comfort Zone.
There are two vital elements you need in order to achieve ANY goal. Almost every goal you have not achieved comes down to one of these being absent:
- A real desire to achieve the goal. If you really, really, really want something, then you will move Heaven and Earth to get it. The more you want it, the more likely you are to get it.
- Belief that you can achieve the goal. If you doubt your ability to get what you want, you will most likely manifest that doubt.
As a Life Coach, I can’t help you with the first element. Only you can decide what you want, and how badly you want it. I do however have techniques, which can easily help you to release any limiting beliefs in your ability to achieve your goals.
There are many different models on how to set goals, in order to word them in a way which your Conditioned Mind can work with easily. I prefer to keep things simple, so I will share with you the basic technique of setting a “SMART” goal. First get clear on what result it is you really want to achieve. Write it down, and then check if it is SMART using the guide below. Is your goal:
- S – Specific and Simple
- M – Measurable and Meaningful to you
- A – As if now, Achievable, and relevant to All areas of your life
- R – Realistic and Responsible (Ecological)
- T – Timed and Towards what you want
You will probably find yourself rewriting your goal several times as you refine it, to get it to fulfil all of these criteria. It can also help to work with someone on to get your goal just right. Fresh eyes, or experienced ones, can often see things that you overlook.
Here is a format for starting off your goals which works well:
“It is now 2pm on the 3rd of May 2012 (timed) and I have just completed/achieved(as if now)…. fill in the details of your goal here.
Some common mistakes to steer clear of:
- Setting too many goals. What you FOCUS on is what you get! It is much easier to focus on your goals if you work on only one, or two, or at most three goals at a time. Having twenty goals may look great on paper, but you are unlikely to be properly focused on any of them.
- Make sure your goal is one individual goal. Clients often come to me with complex goals, filled with AND’s, which are actually several goals rolled into one. Again this detracts from the focus, and makes it harder to achieve.
- Setting goals for things you don’t really want. This may sound obvious, but if you don’t really want something, you are less likely to make the effort to achieve it. This would include goals you set to try and make others happy.
- Not acting on your goals. Just setting the goal is not enough, you also need to act on it. Ideally you should take the first step as soon as you have set the goal. Make an action plan on how you will get to your goal.
There is obviously a lot more to be said about Setting Goals, and there is much I can do with Clients to ensure they achieve their goals once they have set them. I have great techniques to enhance and intensify goals, and to help plant them deeper into the Conditioned Mind. These really need to be done individually and transmitted in person.
I hope you chose to take value from what I have shared here. My February talk at Constellation House (15th, at 6.45 for 7pm) will focus on this topic of Setting Goals, and ways of using Your Mind more effectively to Achieve them.
So if you would like to explore this further, please ring or email me to book your seat. You are welcome to bring a goal or two with you, in case we have time to work on them in more detail.